Can’t Find the Common Thread? Find the Jewel in Your Heart
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Can’t Find the Common Thread? Find the Jewel in Your Heart

Written by Emilie

Topics: Multipotentialite Patterns

This is a guest post by Pace Smith.

Howdy, multipotentialites!

You know how Emilie always talks about finding the common thread that connects your multifarious interests? My question is: What if your common thread is something spiritual, not something practical?

The Basic Building Blocks of the Universe

Particle physics teaches that the basic physical building blocks of the universe are atoms, quarks, and so on. Sufism teaches that the basic spiritual building blocks of the universe are ninety-nine qualities called “The Divine Qualities.”

These qualities are things like Unconditional Love, Compassion, Strength, Patience, Appreciation, and so on. From a spiritual point of view, everything that’s really going on at a deep level can be expressed in terms of these qualities.

The Precious Jewel Inside Your Heart

The cool thing about humans is that each human being has the innate ability to receive one of these ninety-nine Divine Qualities and reflect it out into the world.

Your spiritual center that reflects this quality is called your Jewel, because it reflects one Divine quality like a jewel reflecting a ray of light.

For example, my Jewel is Nourishment, so nourishment is a common spiritual thread that connects my interests:

  • When I do my best writing, my readers feel nourished by reading it.
  • When I’m doing my best coaching, my clients feel nourished, and this feeling of nourishment in their hearts gives them the fuel to do awesome things out in the world.
  • When I do my best marketing, my potential customers feel nourished from reading my copy, even if they choose not to sign up. (And knowing this helps me feel wholehearted about sharing my marketing materials widely.)

An Exercise You Can Use to Discover Your Own Jewel

Before you dive into the exercise, decide what you’d like to use for the Name of the Divine. You don’t have to believe any dogma or convert to any religion; just pick a name to experiment with that signifies something greater than yourself. If you’re already familiar with a Name of the Divine from your own spiritual path, use that. Otherwise, try any one of these that feels good to you: Source, Spirit, God, Universe, Divine, Oneness, Beloved.

Here’s the exercise:

Close your eyes. Breathe deeply. Call the Name of the Divine into your heart, several times, and each time pause to notice how your heart responds. Remember a time when you did your best work and shared it with someone else. Visualize the event in detail. Bring all your senses into it.

Now ask to be shown which Divine quality was flowing through your heart and into the other person’s heart. Which Divine quality were you giving, and which Divine quality was the other person receiving?

Be willing to be surprised. It doesn’t have to make sense to your brain. Just notice what comes up, say yes to it, and ask to be shown even more clearly. When you feel complete, give thanks for anything you received, take one more deep breath, and open your eyes.

Now, repeat that same exercise, but remember a different time when you did a different kind of your best work. You’re a multipod, so you’ll need to do this multiple times.

Do you perceive the same quality every time you practice this meditation? If so, that’s your Jewel.

Is there a majority? A quality that comes up often? If so, that’s probably your Jewel.

If not, look for a common thread between the qualities you noticed. Is there a quality underneath the quality? For example, if your music transmits Compassion from your heart to your listeners’ hearts, maybe underneath Compassion is the quality of Love? Repeat the meditation above, but this time ask, “Is there a quality underneath this quality?”

If it’s still not clear to you, maybe that’s because we’ve only put together half of the puzzle. You see, your Jewel isn’t a lightbulb. It doesn’t generate light; it only reflects it.

Giving and Receiving

Your Jewel is not only your greatest gift to the world; it’s also what your heart most needs to receive.

Here’s how that shows up in my own life:

  • I need lots of self-care time so I can feel well-nourished.
  • I practice Remembrance five times a day to keep my heart well-nourished.
  • I eat vegan food and play DDR regularly to keep my body well-nourished.
  • In my best friendships (especially my marriage), both of us feel nourished by the relationship and the nourishment flows both directions.

See? Your Jewel is about both giving and receiving.

This is the second half of the puzzle: noticing what quality your heart most needs to receive.

Here are some questions to explore to find that quality:

  • What feeling do you go out of your way to get?
  • What do you obsess over? Why?
  • If your gifts ever dry up, what helps get the flow started again?
  • Imagine your ideal vacation. How does your heart feel?

These questions will point at your Jewel from the opposite direction – the direction of receiving.

What if I’m Too Much of a Multipotentialite?

You might be worrying that you’re such a multipotentialite that not even a Divine quality can contain all of the many parts of you.

Not all of your various interests have to be fueled by your Jewel. For example, when I do a public speaking gig, I feel radiant, but not nourished or nourishing. When I code, I feel masterful, but not nourished or nourishing. When I correctly guess the killer in an episode of Midsomer Murders, I feel like an ace detective, but it doesn’t feel nourishing.

But your Jewel is where your most precious gifts lie. When you tap into your Jewel’s flow of giving and receiving, you connect to something greater than yourself. You access that “channeling” state where your best work feels like it’s being done through you, not by you. Not only does this feel awesome, but it also gives you relief and ease, because it removes the struggle of trying to do it all yourself.

What are You Waiting for? Find Your Jewel!

Finding your Jewel not only helps you understand yourself more clearly, but it also helps you take better care of yourself (since you know what quality your heart is thirsting for) and do your greatest work in a way that doesn’t even feel like work.

Your Turn

What’s a quality you give to others when you do your best work? What’s a quality your heart needs to receive so that you can do your best work?

pacePace Smith (The Pathfinding Coach) helps sensitive spiritual nonconformists live wild crazy meaningful lives. She’s also a teacher, a speaker, a writer, a Sufi dervish, a bi poly trans gamer geek, an open-source Reiki healer, a tournament-level Dance Dance Revolution player, and a flaming multipotentialite (in case that wasn’t obvious). Download her free eBook, Find Your Path Now, to search for your Jewel nestled in amongst the various things you love.


  1. J'aime says:

    Hi Pace!!

    I love this.

  2. Pace says:

    Thanks, J’aime!

  3. jonathan says:

    Hi I absolutely love this post, because I happen to discover my unique sparkle the night before I got this email. I’d like to proudly say one of my brightest quality is that of understanding. i have an eye to understand how people feel and think and what they are hiding (skills, fears, thoughts, resistance, etc.) and how to maneuver to the solution. This is amazing to me because now a days people do not understand what is happening for example what their body is telling them, how to listen/communicate, and even something as their unique traits that they haven’t fully realized yet. I know this is one of the big ones because I get lost in the task and when I have helped someone understand(including myself) I am aligned and feel like a star that can NEVER let its light burnout (best description :l) Before the night before, I was lost and didn’t know what to do with all of my talents but as life went on and events and myself connected to form the whole picture I realized who I am and what I am here for (More to discover !!) resulting in having more strength to move on day by day.
    Live on my friends, good things are on its way :3

  4. Linda Ursin says:

    I haven’t landed on a single word yet, but these are a start: Expression, fulfillment, curiosity

    • Pace says:

      Beautiful, Linda! Thanks for sharing!

      And yeah, sometimes it won’t be a single word, but is more of a feeling, sensation, or quality.

  5. Catherine Chisnall says:

    Thanks so much for this article, I had more or less given up trying to find my overarching theme, the closest I could get was ‘relationships’ but that was a bit vague.
    When I get some peace and quiet I’ll do the exercise :)

    • Pace says:

      Wonderful, Catherine! I’d love to hear what comes up for you.

      • Catherine Chisnall says:

        Well its taken me a while but I narrowed it down to the Protective Friend, the All Aware and the Subtle One from the list of 99 qualities I found. Hope that was the right list. I’m not sure what to do with those qualities now but it helps.

        • Pace Smith says:

          Beautiful, Catherine.

          What I suggest doing with those qualities is to try each one on for a week. Try to hold it in your heart as you go through the day, and see if you can notice when you’re embodying (or enheartening) that quality. Deepen your knowing of each quality and that will lead you to your Jewel.

          • Catherine Chisnall says:

            Hi again.

            I did what you said. The Protective Friend was too tiring, the Subtle One didn’t suit me too much as I’m too bold, so I decided on the All Aware. It sounds a bit like I’m trying to be God but I think it means I notice everything and I’m very sensitive to things and people around me :)

          • Pace Smith says:

            Yeah, it does sound a bit like trying to be God. What it really is is channeling a Divine quality. It’s not trying to own that quality or become that quality, it’s like becoming a more perfect vessel to receive and give that quality.

            Great job narrowing it down! The next step is to start noticing ways that you already use this quality in your life, and finding new ways to make use of it!

  6. Kyla says:

    Thank you so much Pace this article was exactly what I needed this morning for clarity around the next stages of my creative journey. A massive a-ha on a bright sunny day … the best way to begin.

    I am The Enricher … all that I say, do, create and share has and will continue to be about enriching peoples experience of life and loving who they are. Forever grateful and off to share your post now.

    And thank you Emilie for this amazing community, I love being a Multipotenialite. xx

  7. Thanks for this Pace. I think it’s important to really get with and listen to others when trying to find your common thread. My interests are so much a part of me, it’s hard for me to tie them all together in one word. Spiritual themes are so broad and roomy that they make a great umbrella to fit seemingly uncommon interests together.


    • Pace Smith says:

      Totally, Sharon! Spiritual themes are broad and roomy when applied to the material world, but they can still be specific and focusing from a heart/soul perspective, which is why I find them to be useful.

  8. Christie says:

    Hi! I haven’t found my jewel yet, but I just read your post and wanted to comment to say thank you ahead of time. This is a great idea. I will do some thinking! :)

  9. Mary says:

    I have a 7 chakra bracelet I normally wear everyday, however I still have not found my jewel yet.

    Pace, you are a very talented writer! Read a few of your posts and I wish I had your talent on my site.

    Many blessings to you!

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