Hi multipods,
Last week, I shared my new year’s goals with you. But there’s one focus for the coming year that I left out, because I was still working it out for myself. This one may be 2020’s biggest and most personal goal of all.
This year I will be working on trusting myself more.
It’s a sea change that will have to happen bit by bit. I’m not sure how, but I wrote an affirmation for myself, to start. Honestly, I’m a little nervous to share it. But who knows, maybe it could help you, too. Here it is:
What I think,
How I feel,
What I love:
These hold more weight to me than other people’s opinions.
I will always listen to others that I trust, but I trust myself above all others.
I know myself better than anyone else knows me, and I check in with myself regularly.
When I listen to, respect, and prioritize my inner voice, I make things happen.
I really need to hear this right now.
Maybe it’s knowing that if I pursue my TV pilot with the force that will be needed to get it made, I will experience a lot of rejection before the yeses come. But I think it’s bigger than one project. I just instinctively know that my emotional wellbeing, my relationships, and my work would all benefit greatly from a little extra self-trust right now. I want to feel, in my gut, an overall sense that I got this.
I’m realizing that I deserve to feel solid. And, in true multipotentialite fashion, I have way too many plans to spend time second-guessing myself.
Your Turn
We’ve already talked projects, plans and career. But do you have any emotional, internal or mental health goals that you’re working on in 2020?
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Yes, I do! Being more sincere, especially when it comes to work: being able to express clearly my limits (saying no and sticking to it) and my desires.
Happy 2020!
Love them!
Hi Emilie
I love your affirmation.
It is tough to stand to yourself when you explore new ground and experiencing the storm of non approval from all sides. What helps me a lot is what another multipod Albert Einstein said: “A great idea you will recognize when its realization first seems impossible.” He also said that when you encounter really a lot of discouraging opinions than you are really on the right track to a break through.
Keep it up!
Patrick
Thanks Patrick! Those are great quotes.
Hi Emilie
Thanks for the affirmation. It completely resonates with me and with where I am on my path.
Lately, I am regularly saying this affirmation to myself: ‘I take my own decisions, without feeling guilty’.
Keep up the great work that you’re doing. I follow you.
Love,
Sofie
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Yes! That’s awesome, Sofie. Thanks for sharing.
Hi Emilie, this came on the right moment and resonates also with me and specially today when i felt awful and when i checked in with myself i felt definitely it has to do with trusting myself and trust life.
So thank you very much, it feels i am not struggling alone
Conny
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Hi Conny, that’s amazing to hear. Thanks so much. Take care of yourself!
Emilie
Dear Emilie,
an important goal for myself this year is somewhat related to yours:
Whenever I am fascinated, deeply moved or even charmed (let alone: bewitched) by something, I will not listen to those who either tell me that there is no magic or that it would be naive to find that fascinating.
For me, 2020 is the year of the spark in my eyes and the eyes of others.
Cheers from Vienna,
Harald
Hi Harald,
Your goal is really beautiful. Enjoy all the magic!
Hi Emilie,
to be reassured and to be reassuring, for me both are something that I desire.
Nemania frome Serbia
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Thank you for your affirmation! I find I doubt myself all the time when I think there are “experts” on every field I work on: how can my project be good enough when you have people working for years, 24-7, in that single particular craft? I go back and forth from bursts of self-confidence to doubting myself. I need to be able to nurture that trust in my abilities until it becomes strong enough to give me a steady level of confidence above my insecurities. Not easy.
I hear ya, Marina. Here are a couple older articles that might help with this not-being-an-expert fear:
https://puttylike.com/why-you-should-stop-trying-to-be-the-best/
https://puttylike.com/the-limiting-identity-of-expert/