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That time I got married…

Some beginnings change everything.By Emilie Wapnick

Hey multipotentialites,

Emilie here, coming to you from North Queensland, Australia, where my wife, Valerie, and I are on honeymoon!!!!

I was/am planning on taking this week off by totally disconnecting, but I just had this urge to check in with you guys…

The past couple weeks have felt like a culmination of so much: planning the wedding, preparing my keynote for Problogger, writing my book, finally getting here and knowing we’ll be moving into Fall when we get home… Now that we’re taking a breath in the tropics, though, I’ve found myself thinking about how it’s really only the beginning.

Beginnings are exciting. Beginnings are scary.

Six years ago, I committed to my multipotentiality — It was time to stop beating myself up for being “flaky,” time to stop fighting my multifaceted nature. I resolved to integrate my many passions into my life! I was going to make it work, this being totally who I am.

I’m happy and lucky to have come so far from that beginning, but that moment laid the foundation for the rest of my life. I will never forget that.

Like everyone’s, my life has included many beginnings that didn’t go anywhere. Some of those have been incredibly painful and disappointing. Some have felt like natural transitions. And some have been, frankly, a huge relief.

When Valerie and I met, we were both about ready to give up on dating for a while, and focus on other parts of our lives. But each of us decided, in our own way, to take one last chance on the other.

Some beginnings turn out to be dead ends and some beginnings change everything.

I’m going to keep this short because I need to go swim on the beach! I’m including some wedding photos, in case you’re interested. Love you guys. Never stop beginning.

xo Emilie

Photos by jBarclay Photography.

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Published on September 12, 2016
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Emilie Wapnick (she/they) is the founder and creative director at Puttylike and The Puttyverse, where she helps multipotentialites build lives and careers around ALL their interests. Unable to settle on one path herself, Emilie studied music, art, film production and law, graduating from the Law Faculty at McGill University. She is the author of the award-winning book, How to Be Everything (HarperCollins), and her TED talk has been viewed 8 million times. You can learn more about Emilie here.

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  1. Taffar Cifalia says

    September 12, 2016 at 7:53 am

    Congratulations!!! How wonderful for you two. May your life be filled with wonder and be full with your new beginnings.

    Best Wishes

    Reply
  2. Mark Snow says

    September 12, 2016 at 8:41 am

    Congratulations!!

    And from a long-time Aussie reader, welcome to my part of the world – if you find yourself in Brisbane anytime during your stay, please get in touch. I’d love to connect with my multi-potentialite muse!

    Enjoy your stay DownUnder 🙂

    Reply
  3. Anna Weisend says

    September 12, 2016 at 4:56 pm

    Congratulations! Get off the computer! Enjoy the honeymoon!

    Reply
  4. Ian Anderson says

    September 12, 2016 at 6:01 pm

    Awesome and enjoy! Nuff said lol…

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  5. Cas Yates says

    September 12, 2016 at 8:25 pm

    It was lovely to meet you both here in the land of Oz and see the beautiful connection you have with each other. The photos are fabulous. Valerie the dress is amazing.

    Reply
  6. Micah Puklowski says

    September 13, 2016 at 6:05 am

    Congrats! Wishing you many more years of health, wealth, love, laughter, travel, multipotentialism and happiness!

    Reply
  7. Dee says

    September 13, 2016 at 8:11 am

    You look so happy. Congrats! Love that final photo.

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  8. Emily DeVoto says

    September 13, 2016 at 8:15 am

    Congrats both, so happy for you!

    Reply
  9. sue heumann says

    September 13, 2016 at 8:17 am

    Congratulations Emilie!!! I’ve been lurking in stealth mode regarding Puttypeep, but I’m so glad I happened upon your message! Wishing you and Valerie a wonderful honeymoon and lots of beginnings to come! All the best —

    Sue

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  10. Anneri Victor says

    September 13, 2016 at 8:20 am

    Such sweet and lovely photos! I am sure you had a perfect day! Congratulations!!

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  11. Bruna says

    September 13, 2016 at 8:23 am

    The smile on yall faces say it all. Happy for you guys! S2

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  12. Max Olivier says

    September 13, 2016 at 8:23 am

    Congratulations to you and your lovely wife.
    Enjoy your honeymoon.

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  13. Jana says

    September 13, 2016 at 8:50 am

    Love this: Never stop beginning!

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  14. Nicole says

    September 13, 2016 at 8:50 am

    Watch out for crocs!!!! Hope you’re enjoying the warmth and beauty of the rainforest 🙂

    Those photos capture what a magical day it must’ve been for you both, and for all those smiling people around you. Thankyou for sharing with us!

    Much love xxxx

    p.s it was totally amazing to meet you both in Melb, I’d love to swing by Portland one day and see your hood. Take care!

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  15. Brandi says

    September 13, 2016 at 9:00 am

    Yay!!! Congratulations!! Warmest wishes for a wonderful marriage!! 🙂

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  16. Michele says

    September 13, 2016 at 9:23 am

    Congrats, and may you have a lifetime of happiness together!

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  17. Catherine Chisnall says

    September 13, 2016 at 9:32 am

    Congratulations! Getting married was the best thing I ever did (22 years ago!). I’m so glad marriage equality is here because now everyone can experience the joy 🙂

    Reply
  18. Monica says

    September 13, 2016 at 9:53 am

    Congratulations on your wedding, you both look very happy 🙂 Hope your honeymoon is going swimmingly (see what I did there? lol), and you aren’t getting too sunburnt!

    I am at the other end of the country to you, hope you are enjoying being in Oz.

    Hugs from Tasmania xx

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  19. Susan says

    September 13, 2016 at 10:02 am

    Looks like it was a beautiful and joyous celebration. Congratulations and best wishes to you both!

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  20. Wendy says

    September 13, 2016 at 10:30 am

    Congratulations on another beginning! One of the most joyous ever! Thanks for sharing – enjoy your honeymoon! Best to you both.

    Reply
  21. Thais Aux says

    September 13, 2016 at 10:38 am

    Oh, girl! I liked this last sentence so much I created an image for it. I put it on my server, hope you can see it: http://www.thaisetc.com.br/wp-content/uploads/2016/09/emilie.jpg

    Congratulations on the wedding! Now what are you doing here? Go enjoy your honeymoon!

    Best!

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    • J2 says

      September 13, 2016 at 1:03 pm

      Your image is BEAUTIFUL! Ain’t it the truth, eh!

      Reply
    • Charlene says

      September 14, 2016 at 1:56 am

      I absolutely LOVED that too! Great pic. 🙂

      Reply
  22. Judith says

    September 13, 2016 at 10:39 am

    beautiful!!!!! congratulations <3

    Reply
  23. Ehsan says

    September 13, 2016 at 11:09 am

    Wow….
    Believe me that until now I’ve thought that you are a woman…
    What a pretty man you are…
    congratulations…
    Have a lifetime of happiness together..:)

    Reply
    • Emilie says

      September 13, 2016 at 4:40 pm

      Hey Ehsan,

      You were right. I am a woman. Gay marriage is legal in the US. 🙂

      Reply
      • Ehsan says

        September 15, 2016 at 3:39 am

        Ok…
        You both are really attractive…
        But your wife although is very pretty, doesn’t look like as a multipotentialite …?
        You Ok with her…?

        Reply
  24. Sheryl says

    September 13, 2016 at 11:35 am

    Congratulations! What a beautiful wedding. I wish you and Valerie a lifetime of love together!

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  25. Joanie says

    September 13, 2016 at 11:53 am

    What a loving and lovely couple you make! Congratulations and thank-you for continuing to share your beautiful truths with us all.

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  26. Mónica says

    September 13, 2016 at 11:54 am

    You both look so happy! Congratulations and Blessings! Mónica

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  27. sahar says

    September 13, 2016 at 12:58 pm

    congratulations emily??

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  28. Ema says

    September 13, 2016 at 12:58 pm

    Wow – what a beautiful couple you two make – thank you for sharing these pictures of your special day! It’s funny, but like you and Valérie, my partner and I met, shortly after we’d both decided to not focus on dating, and concentrate on enjoying life and making friends. Life can be wonderfully fulfilling and special as a single person, but there is also something special and wonderful about finding the right person to share it with.

    I wish the two of you every joy for the future!

    Your fellow multipotentialite,
    Ema

    Reply
  29. J2 says

    September 13, 2016 at 1:04 pm

    Much happiness and Adventure to you both–the good kind.

    Reply
  30. Tessa says

    September 13, 2016 at 1:25 pm

    Wow, huge congratulations Emilie and Valerie! Hope your honeymoon is epic and nourishing :). Love! the last picture! Such an adorable family! <3

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  31. Nati says

    September 13, 2016 at 2:18 pm

    Congrats!! they seem very happy!!! LOVE WINS ? ? ?

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  32. Rick says

    September 13, 2016 at 2:39 pm

    Beautiful !!!!!

    Reply
  33. Claire says

    September 13, 2016 at 3:02 pm

    Congrats you cuties!!! Enjoy your time in Australia and thank you for all the work you’ve done over those 6 years!

    Reply
  34. Jorge colorado says

    September 13, 2016 at 5:07 pm

    Emily congratulations, enjoy your honeymoon! You deserve it! Yeah some begginings are awful others are life changing, but at the end you have to try all of them to know which are those that make a better life! Cheers!

    Reply
  35. Itziar says

    September 13, 2016 at 5:08 pm

    Congrats to Emilie and Valerie. I’m new here and I feel so grateful to Emilie’s TED talk about multipotentialites that I wanted to send you both loads of best wishes. Come to Madrid and bring us more light to Spaniards multipotentialites!

    Reply
  36. Jordan says

    September 13, 2016 at 6:01 pm

    Congratulations Emilie! Best wishes to you on this new chapter. You both look positively radiant!

    Reply
  37. Alexandre says

    September 13, 2016 at 6:49 pm

    Congrats! Wish you true happiness and much fun!

    Reply
  38. Sky says

    September 13, 2016 at 7:37 pm

    Congratulations!!!

    Reply
  39. shaun says

    September 13, 2016 at 8:52 pm

    congrats guys!
    i hope you enjoy yourselves over here in oz 😉

    Reply
  40. Ramya says

    September 14, 2016 at 1:03 am

    Congratulations Emilie ! Best wishes to both of you…

    Reply
  41. Uttam says

    September 14, 2016 at 6:07 am

    Congratulations Emilie, from another long time reader. Best wishes to you and Valerie! x

    Reply
  42. Tania says

    September 14, 2016 at 11:26 am

    Thanks for sharing, Emilie. Both your smiling faces bring warmth to my heart. Muitas felicidades 🙂
    Big hug from Portugal *

    Reply
  43. Charles says

    September 14, 2016 at 11:39 am

    Congratulations you two!! The picture with the dog warms my heart. Have a great honeymoon!!

    Reply
  44. Lrmckn says

    September 14, 2016 at 4:24 pm

    I had an awesome new beginning which actually resonates with yours. Since I broke up last year with a girl I loved a lot (she was the first person to love me as a gender queer person) I decided to focus on my many many projects; to get back out there after a horrible depression, which had started during the relationship though I didn’t notice it till it was too late. Anyways I thought I didn’t want to date anyone again, at least not for this year… I wanted to do stuff I hadn’t been able to do for a variety of reasons which include unconscious anxiety attacks, and a lot of self loathing and insecurity (which had to do with the the fact that I was for the first time recognizing myself as gender queer/gender-fluid and gray ace.

    Well the beggining came recently. The Orlando attack forced me to go out of the closet yet again, this time with the gender stuff… in a brutal way. I hurt a lot of people I cared a lot about by imploding and exploding verbally online so I could reconstruct myself again.
    When I could finaly see myself again as a new person, everything started flowing. Opportunities came and guess what? I randomly met an amazing trans FtoM and we’ve been having a blast journeying together through our transitions, getting to know each other, working and dealing with parents and family (which is not easy at all in our country/city right now).

    I think this is one of the greatest new begginings I’ve had yet. So I’m fucking scared as shit. I’m about to scream while writing this lol. But I heard a song recently which says “if you’re not scared you’re not in love” which I think applies perfectly not only to loving people but to whatever your passions are, and even to loving your own self.

    Beatufiful pictures by the way 🙂
    xoxoxo – my kitties say hi too

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  45. Craig says

    September 14, 2016 at 7:59 pm

    Congratulations, from the photos it seems everyone had a wonderful day including your four legged friend! Great to see & hear. I hope you enjoy your Honeymoon over here, fortunately your weather’s better up North than mine is down here at the moment. Unless of course you love the rain as much as I do!
    All the best for the new chapter in your lives together.
    Craig.

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  46. Erin Glass says

    September 17, 2016 at 10:05 pm

    Congratulations! I just got married myself at the end of July. I really enjoy your blog. It’s nice to finally feel like I am not alone in the world. May you and your wife have a lifetime of happiness and blessings together!

    Reply
  47. S Van says

    September 22, 2016 at 4:19 pm

    Congratulations! Have fun on your honeymoon. Thanks for the pics.

    Reply
  48. Bunny White says

    September 25, 2016 at 12:17 am

    So much love and congratulations on your wedding and new beginning!!! <3 <3 <3

    Reply
  49. Sarah Wilkins says

    September 26, 2016 at 10:52 am

    Hi Emilie

    I’ve been out of touch with the tribe for a while and glad I checked in today and saw your pictures. Hope you have had a wonderful honeymoon in Oz.
    Sarah

    Reply
  50. Jade Wisely says

    October 7, 2016 at 7:46 pm

    Oh how utterly wonderful! Congratulations you two. There’s nothing sweeter than love, and two people who share it deeply enough to make a life long commitment. Certainly a celebration worth sharing. Just delighted for you two. Wishing you a lifetime of wedded bliss. xoxo

    Reply

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