I knew what they were expecting to hear. “I’m writing a new book!” “Speaking engagements!” or even something random like: “I’m writing and producing a musical!” None of those answers would have surprised them.
I can’t really blame people for making assumptions about my plans based on what I’ve done in the past or based on my (very public) identity as a multipotentialite.
I think I’ve truly shocked a few people recently though… Because my answer wasn’t, “I’m writing a new book.” Not even close.
Here was my answer:
“My wife and I are expecting a baby. So…I guess, that’s what’s next.”
I guess you can consider this my official announcement, putty-friends! Valerie is pregnant, the due date is December 5, and we are so excited. I literally can’t stop daydreaming about spending time with this baby in the first few months of their life, and then at every stage of their growth. It’s practically all I think about these days.
Having a baby as a same-sex couple was a big, (obviously) intentional project. It was logistically, financially and physically difficult at times—but a great adventure, too. Without getting into specifics, I can say that I feel very lucky to have such supportive friends and community, and to live in a time and place where all this is possible.
I don’t want to elevate child-rearing above other types of pursuits—it’s not for everyone, and it’s certainly not the end-all be -all of life. But I also don’t want to denigrate it by placing it lower on the “meaningful scale” than career-oriented projects. What we consider meaningful is very personal to us, and it can change many times over the course of our life.
Along with my sharing my heartfelt excitement for the my next big multipotentialite project, I want to share this with you:
It’s okay if your next big multipotentialite project happens inside your heart or inside your relationships.
Our projects don’t need to lead to money, fame or career success to matter. They don’t even need to be public. Sometimes working on our mental health, building community or spending more time with loved ones is the most meaningful “project” we could possibly pursue. Meaning is specific to each one of us. May you find fulfillment in the things you’re cultivating and building, whatever they are.
Lots of love from your pal and fellow multipotentialite,
So…what’s next? 😉 For real, I would love to hear about any personal, professional or creative projects you have in the works and are excited to talk about. No value judgments. If it’s meaningful to you, that’s what counts. Scroll down and share in the comments.