Most multipotentialites are intimately familiar with the “in-betweens.” We love exploring the connections between disparate ideas and we often work in industries that intersect with other areas.
Socially and identity-wise we often inhabit the “in betweens,” as well. We may find ourselves floating between social groups. I, for one, have always had a motley array of friends.
In high school I had friends who were into punk rock, nerdy friends, artsy friends and so on. I could hang with any of these groups, but I never really felt like I fit in with any one of them 100%. I would become friends with the one or two people in the group I jived with (looking back, they were often multipotentialites themselves) and we would stay friends over the years because we liked each other, not because we are both interested in X.
I have lived in the “in-between” as a dual citizen. I have a slightly different perspective (and way of using a butter knife) when living in the U.S. And when I’m in Canada, I often find myself trying to point out the nuances and complexities of American identity in conversation.
I’m Jewish, but only (barely) culturally Jewish. My family has always celebrated Christmas “because it is a fun holiday.” Even now, I’m pretty much obsessed with Christmas (WHICH IS IN A FEW DAYS!!!!)
I’m queer. That’s the term that I like and the one that works for me. I like it because it’s open, malleable and doesn’t say much other than “not straight.” (Note: we should all identify in the way that feels right to us. There are plenty of reasons that one might choose to use a more specific identity like an L, G, B, T, etc. It is all good. Whatever you identify as is what you are.)
I know that other people experience this feeling of “not quite fitting in” in much bigger ways than I do. Race, gender and class are all realms in which I inhabit a single space. And I know that many non-multipotentialites experience this, as well.
Feeling like you never quite fit in can be lonely. But it can also be fun and fascinating to move between and learn about different cultures.
And when you find other people who live in the in-betweens–perhaps even a community of multipotentialites–maybe that’s when you start to realize that there is a group out there who gets you. Only what bonds this group together isn’t your mutual love of hiking or chemistry or a cappella. It’s that you all live in the “in-betweens.” You all know how that feels and you can connect on a level that goes deeper than one particular topic. You can get to know each other as other humans who defy categorization.
Cause actually, we all do.
Happy holidays, my multipotentialite/scanner/Renaissance people/polymath/multi-passionate/label-free/whatever-the-heck-you-wish-to-identify-as friends. 🙂
Wishing you much love and laughter and good food this holiday season.
Do you often float between different groups and cultures?