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How to Deal with Negative Critiques of Your Art

29 October 2019

Hey multipotentialite pals! Today, I want to talk about the act of putting your art out there for feedback and how both positive and negative evaluations can seriously affect your mood. Not that I’m speaking from experience or anything… Okay, I AM speaking from experience. Very recent experience, in fact, lol. As some of you […]

Six Lessons from Writing the Book I Swore I Wouldn’t Write

22 October 2019

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“Never again.” – Neil Hughes, after writing a book After winning four Olympic gold medals, Steve Redgrave famously said that if anyone found him close to a rowing boat again, they could shoot him. Four years later, he won a fifth gold. Let’s be real—I am not as good at writing as Steve Redgrave is […]

How to Deal with Multipotentialite FOMO

10 September 2019

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A couple of years ago, I offered to co-host a baby shower for a friend. Unfortunately, something else came up and I had to go out of town for a month. The other host took over, planned it all and left me off the guest list. She knew I’d be traveling, of course, but it […]

“The slightest reminder of paths not travelled can be agonizing”

3 September 2019

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Once upon a time, my parents took me to the zoo. This day is full of memories which have stuck with me ever since—the sunshine, the excitement, the ice cream… even holding hands with my dad, watching eagerly as he unfolded the map. One of the sharpest and most vivid memories is of the dolphins. […]

The Reluctant Multipotentialite: What to Do When You Feel Like a Master of None

27 August 2019

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“Life is barely long enough to get good at one thing. Be careful what you get good at.” Thanks, Matthew McConaughey. I was happily enjoying my Sunday night, watching an episode of True Detective with a glass of cabernet, when McConaughey’s character drops this line. And it hits a little too close to home. This […]

Why You Should Do Something Badly Today!

13 August 2019

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“If a thing is worth doing, it is worth doing badly.” – G. K. Chesterton Last week I was overcome with paralyzing guilt after slightly miscooking a sausage sandwich. Don’t worry—the sandwich was delicious. But even as I was putting it together, a critical internal voice was opining that the pan had been too hot, […]

A Simple Trick to Sidestep Your Self-Criticism

16 July 2019

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Sometimes I’m ashamed to share my work. You might think that’s understandable (particularly if you’ve been exposed to many of my posts before!) but this isn’t simply a healthy sense of shame at my evident limitations. Often, it’s fear of my own unoriginality. That inner voice of shame tells me to scrap my work, and […]

You Might As Well Do The Thing: How to Make Decisions While Anxious

25 June 2019

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As a standup comedian who talks a lot about anxiety, I frequently get asked the same question: “how are you SO great?” But after that, people often ask how anyone with anxiety can possibly do something as terrifying as standup. For a long time this confused me, too. It’s not like I’m immune to the […]