We like to think that our choices have cosmic significance, that the route we take to the store could mean the difference between meeting our soulmate or not, and that the project we choose to focus on today will have a significant impact on our lives.
And sometimes our choices do matter. Sometimes we do meet that special person en route to the grocery story, or we stumble upon an amazing opportunity because we chose to explore one passion over another. Sometimes our decisions have a major impact. But most of the time, choosing one route or project over another will produce no real difference.
In reality, you could probably choose either path, and chances are you’d end up with exactly the same result. Or maybe there would be a minor difference, but nothing significant.
A lot of the time, your choices just don’t matter.
That might sound harsh, but it’s actually quite freeing. Hear me out.
Multipotentialites often get hung up on which project to focus on on any given day. When I asked about your biggest productivity struggles, “choosing what to focus on” came up again and again. It was by far the biggest concern.
You’ve probably heard of the paradox of choice: the more options you have in front of you, the harder it is to choose. Well, for multipotentialites, who have so many more interests than most people, the paradox of choice is amplified tenfold.
No wonder this is a big problem!
Limit Your choices through prioritization
First thing’s first. Multipods tend to have so many projects in their lives, that I always recommend choosing 1-5 priority projects and hanging reminders of those on your wall (everything else can be explored during scanning time or can be added to your backburner list of things to pursue in the future).
However, beyond deciding on your priority projects, your choice about what to focus on on any given day, really doesn’t matter very much. For the most part, you could choose any of your priority projects to work on, and regardless of your choice, you’d be making progress on something important.
What’s important isn’t that you make the right choice, but that you make a choice
Getting hung up on all the possibilities and trying to be make the “perfect choice” will paralyze you. It’s also a form of Resistance, a good rationalization to not take that action step that will truly advance one of your goals.
We so often complicate things for ourselves, taking the long, winding road because we’re too afraid of doing the one thing that we know would make a real difference: calling that potential client, writing that sales page, whatever it is. Pouring over all of your possible options is a good way to avoid taking action.
But in this scenario, making a choice is more important than making the right choice. In fact, sometimes there is no right choice, just a number of different options.
So flip a coin, go with what you’re most passionate about in the moment, or do the thing that feels most pressing. It doesn’t really matter how you make your choice, just that you make one.
Admitting that your choices sometimes don’t matter is freeing
Now, when I hear my thoughts begin to obsess about what to work on, or hell, which utensil to use, I think to myself, “This choice probably doesn’t matter.”
Just admitting that your choice likely won’t make any difference or have any real, irreparable impact, makes it a lot easier to move on with your life.
Don’t waste your mental energy on decisions that don’t matter. Just pick something and get going.
Do you ever feel paralyzed by choice? How do you handle it?