I just got back from having tea with my friend at Powells. She’s a dog trainer, and she was answering some of my puppy questions.
(For those who are confused, in my email last week, I mentioned that I was having problems with my landlord over getting a puppy. We’re still in negotiation, but it looks like we’ll be compromising on a slightly older/housebroken dog. He’ll be 4-5 months old, which is still darn cute.)
Anyway, it’s becoming abundantly clear to me that while I may be a keen observer of the human condition, dog psychology is a very different matter. For instance, people assume that when they leave the house and their dog chews something up, it’s because the dog is mad at them. In reality, it’s usually that the dog is feeling some separation anxiety, and so they chew on something that smells like their owner for comfort.
It’s becoming clear to me just how much I have to learn. I really want to be a good mom– provide enough security and routine, while still exposing the little guy to unexpected activities, noises, and socialize him to a wide range of humans and other dogs.
The other thing I’ve been thinking about is how getting a dog will affect my freedom as a multipotentialite. Clearly, there are some new activities that I won’t be able to try. I won’t be able to take that architecture class, for example, since it’s four hours long. However, I can probably still do Bollywood and yoga classes, since they’re only an hour each. But this is sort of my own version of the “my kids are preventing me from exploring my interests” conundrum (on a much smaller level, obviously).
I’m wondering if life responsibilities are necessarily obstacles to your multipotentiality.
Having kids, getting a house, adopting a puppy– do these things invariably hold you back from pursuing your passions? Is there another way to look at them, so that you don’t become resentful?
I also know that we look for justifications not to pursue our dreams wherever we can. It’s a human response to fear. Some of these limitations are real, but most are exaggerated. I don’t want to subconsciously use the puppy as an excuse for not pursuing my interests. There’s usually a way to make things work… right?
I guess what I’m looking for is advice.
What tips do you have for integrating those “real world responsibilities” in with your multipotentialite lifestyle?
Is it possible that you could even view them, not as limitations, but as vehicles through which to further explore your multipotentiality? Hm.