Do you ever look out at all of the cool things you could do– all of the exciting possibilities and projects, and yet, are unable to act? Perhaps they all seem pointless since you know you will lose interest eventually.
For a community with so many different passions and fascinations, we seem to feel stuck a great deal of the time.
It’s the paradox of choice: the more choices you have, the harder it is to choose anything. The fact that there are so many things we could do means that multipotentialites suffer from the paradox of choice more than the average person.
There are two things I’ve learned that have helped me move past paralysis and take action:
1. Making a choice doesn’t mean that you are making a lifelong commitment. And choosing one path doesn’t preclude you from pursuing all of your other passions either simultaneously or in the future.
2. Changing directions later on doesn’t equal failure and it doesn’t render the energy and hard work you’ve put in pointless. You will pick up knowledge, skills and experience that will be transferable across disciplines. Pursuing different paths allows us to grow and learn and experience more of life.
When you’re feeling stuck in this way, get out a pen and paper and make a list of all of the things you would like to pursue. Then start the one that pulls hardest at your heartstrings. Or start with the one that is the easiest to start. Or honestly, pick one at random. Write down 1-3 small action steps that you could take this week to get started.
It doesn’t much matter which you choose, so don’t delude yourself into thinking that it does. You just need to get started on SOMETHING. Taking action, even incorrect or un-researched action, even minuscule action, makes it easier to take more action. Movement is what you need at this point. You can course-correct later.
We like to think that we can plan out everything in advance and prevent pain and disappointment. We can’t. We learn from doing. As far as I’m concerned, the only true mistake a multipotentialite can make is never pursuing any of their ‘potentials.’ In other words, the only wrong choice is making no choice at all.
Have you ever felt stuck due to all of the things you could choose? How did you deal with this?
Emilie Wapnick is the Founder and Creative Director at Puttylike, where she helps multipotentialites integrate ALL of their interests into their lives. Unable to settle on one path herself, Emilie studied music, art, film production and law, graduating from the Law Faculty at McGill University. She is an occasional rock star, a paleo-friendly eater and a wannabe scientist. Learn more about Emilie here.